To be properly directed in the challenge of becoming the Alpha Male, I must properly define what an Alpha Male is. To start lets list some characteristics that are not Alpha; liar, cheater, wussy, bully, weak, coward, manipulator, and fool. People with these character traits are clearly not worthy of being looked upon with respect and dignity. Traits that are worthy of respect include, but are not limited to; honest, courageous, brave, level-headed, intelligent, and strong.
American society depicts the ‘alpha male’ stereotype as an arrogant ass-hole who tries to pick fights, beats women, and challenges anything that takes attention away from him. This type of male is actually an Omega Male. Specifically, an Omega Male is a person who boosts himself by putting down others. The Omega Male is mean, spiteful, and overly concerned with proving that he is better. This type of person will never excel because he is too focused on others to actually improve himself.
A true Alpha Male is the leader, the guy that everyone looks up to. He walks in to a room and receives respect because of the way he holds himself. Back straight, shoulders back, eyes level with other people’s eyes. This posture is not like a peacock showing his feathers, but more like pit-bull that has no other way to walk. The state of being an Alpha transcends posture and is emulated in a firm hand-shake, steady voice, and calm demeanor. A true Alpha is willing to take responsibility for what needs to be done (& follows through entirely); as well as, responsibility for when things go wrong. A true Alpha is humble. That does not mean submissive, or domesticated, nor anything that implies relinquishing power. To be humble means to not be boastful. If you have a big house, let the house be big by itself, it does not become bigger by boasting about it. An attitude of, “My work speaks for itself.” A true Alpha is also willing to realize his own shortcomings. We all have strengths and weaknesses. By understanding a personal weakness, arrangements can be made to improve or remove it from the equation. Above all they are a consistent force in the room; ready to do what needs to be done at a moment’s notice. Because when the time comes that everyone else needs direction, the Alpha needs to be on his A-game.