A defining feature of the Ultimate Alpha is control. Many people take that to mean controlling a group or a person. While this is not untrue, the road to Alpha status begins with control of one’s self.
Self-Control must be mastered. A person who is a slave to drinking, pornography, their job, debt, or anything else is not in control of their lives. They are not free to live as they choose. A person who says, “I just could not resist” is being controlled by their desires.
That does not mean it is wrong to enjoy the pleasures of life, but when those pleasures compromise your goals/dreams/established assets, then you are being controlled. Meaning that the pleasure is now the Alpha and you are the Beta.
You cannot navigate a voyage effectively without having a destination. To control one’s life effectively, you must have a goal to work towards. It is much easier to say ‘No’ or ‘Yes’ when you are focused on a goal. Why would you say ‘No’ to a Cheeseburger, and ‘Yes’ to working out, if you do not have the goal of losing that sack of fat attached to your body? Why would an addict say ‘No’ to another hit, if they did not have the goal of stopping their habits? Why would an entrepreneur set out to establish a business if he did not have the goal of being financially independent? Goals give our life direction.
Self-control begins with a commitment to personal goals. If we can control ourselves, and give our own lives direction, then we have ground to stand on when directing others.